Person: Suzi Godson

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<p>My wife and I are about to go on a much-needed holiday for a week. We're in our 40s, but have been busy with work and kids lately</p>

health and wellbeing

Sex File: Help! I'm stressed about holiday sex

Sex has fallen by the wayside. I think she is hoping this holiday will change things, but I'm already worried about the pressure to perform...

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advice

Sex File: He has put on weight and now I don't fancy him

<p>Suzi Godson: You can only have sex all night and hold down a job for so long without collapsing. Six months is about tops for that level of intensity</p>

advice

Sex File: I can't keep up with my new, younger man

Tired wife blocking her ears from noise of husband snoring

advice

Sex file: Are separate bedrooms bad for a marriage?

Beautiful woman and handsome muscular man close to each other in happy pose.

advice

Sex file: He hates making love in the summer — why?

Couple not talking after an argument in bed

advice

Sex File: I still fantasise about my ex — how do I finally move on?

Sex File: He wants to have sex on a speedboat

Unless you win the lottery and buy your own superyacht, having sex at sea is very unlikely to be an option for you both

Mon, 29 Aug, 2022

Upset woman thinking about relationship problems and lover indifference

Sex File: It feels like my boyfriend is checking off a list from the Kama Sutra

"I think the most likely explanation for his behaviour is that he is very sexually inexperienced. He thinks that pushing for gymnastic sex makes him appear like a skilled lover when in fact it does precisely the opposite."

Mon, 22 Aug, 2022

Standing on top toes to kiss her boyfriend

Sex File: Her PDAs are too much for me

"For most people the high of new love is a time-limited experience and after six months or so very few couples are still snogging spontaneously in the street. If they are, their PDAs tend to be about putting on a performance rather than passion."

Mon, 15 Aug, 2022

Tropical climate and air conditioner is needed

Sex file: Hot weather is putting my husband off sex

The best time of day to have sex when the weather is warm is in the morning because body temperature cools overnight

Mon, 01 Aug, 2022

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Sex File: He's almost perfect but his rude sexts are a turn-off

When sexting, many men find it easier to steal ideas from porn than to mine the depths of their own desires

Mon, 25 Jul, 2022

Sex File: I can't keep up with my wife now her sex drive has increased

We're using a fertility app now that my wife has stopped taking the contraceptive pill — but I'm finding it hard to keep up with her now that she wants sex more often

Mon, 13 Jun, 2022

Sex File: She falls asleep straight after we make love

'I would like to spend a few minutes cuddling'

Mon, 23 May, 2022

Sex File: Getting engaged killed my libido

Something about the confirmation that this is my sex life for ever just makes me not want to have sex

Mon, 14 Mar, 2022

Young man sleeping waking up and stretching in his bed. people, bedtime and rest concept - man lying in bed at home, It's time t

Sex File: He laughs after we make love and it's a real turn-off

It seems that for a percentage of people laughing or giggling is an automatic response to an overwhelming neurophysiological experience

Mon, 14 Feb, 2022

Middle aged couple sitting on the couch not speaking

Sex File: I want to wait to sleep with her but she is getting impatient

I had a bad break-up before this relationship followed by some meaningless flings

Mon, 03 Jan, 2022

Sex File: Will our sex lives become boring when we leave our marriages and get together?

I am worried that without the excitement of the affair, the sex will become mundane

Mon, 06 Dec, 2021

Sex File: Making love feels like a chore to him

"It's a Hollywood trope, where climax happens almost as soon as penetrative sex begins. That kind of unrealistic sexual scripting isn't just bad for women, it's bad for men too."

Mon, 01 Nov, 2021

Sex File: How often should we make love?

Is once a week a good aim? We're in our 30s. We don't have children and we've been together for ten years.

Mon, 25 Oct, 2021

Young couple kissing cheek in the bed wake up in the morning. loving couple in bedroom

Sex File: He only speaks Spanish in bed and I find it off-putting

An adopted tongue only becomes a "language of the heart" when a person is extremely fluent in speaking it

Mon, 11 Oct, 2021

Sex file: What if during lockdown we’ve forgotten how to have sex?

Sex expert Suzi Godson answers the dilemmas for lovers out of practice

Mon, 22 Jun, 2020

Sex advice: ‘WFH has turned my husband into a slob and I find it a turn-off’

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Mon, 27 Apr, 2020

Sex file: No need to bristle if things get hairy in the bedroom

Suzi Godson offers up some relationship advice.

Mon, 06 Apr, 2020

Sex advice: Inject some excitement into marriage and try new things

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Tue, 24 Mar, 2020

Sex File: Partner’s rhythm method hitting a bum note

Suzi Godson offers ups some relationship advice.

Fri, 27 Dec, 2019

Suzi Godson's Sex Advice: My wife wants us to watch porn together?

My wife and I are in our fifties and she has just started using porn. She thinks it will enhance our sex life if we watch it together, but I find the idea a total turn-off.

Mon, 09 Dec, 2019

Sex Advice with Suzi Godson: I can't help him to climax...

I’m 30 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years.

Mon, 18 Nov, 2019

Sex file: Hard to have sex when you don’t feel sexy

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Tue, 12 Nov, 2019

Sex advice: Showing affection doesn’t always come naturally

Sex advice with Suzi Godson

Wed, 06 Nov, 2019

Sex file: Where have my orgasms gone?

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Wed, 23 Oct, 2019

Sex file: My wife has given my a 'free pass'.

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Mon, 30 Sep, 2019

Sex File: He’s more like a brother than a lover

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Mon, 26 Aug, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Everything is great - apart from the sex

I’m seeing a wonderful woman and we have a huge physical attraction.

Mon, 12 Aug, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: What do I do when I find sex without a condom uncomfortable?

I’m 29 and I have never had sex without a condom.

Mon, 29 Jul, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My boyfriend has become lazy about sex

My boyfriend and I get on really well and have a great relationship in general. But he’s become more and more lazy with sex. He lies there and expects me to do all the work.

Mon, 22 Jul, 2019

Sex advice: I'm worried she's not satisfied

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Mon, 17 Jun, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: He won’t stop talking during sex

Suzi Godson offers advice to the girlfriend of a man who likes to chat during foreplay and sex

Mon, 10 Jun, 2019

Sex advice: I find his post-work tracksuit gear really unsexy

Sex advice with Suzi Godson.

Mon, 06 May, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Role play can inject novelty into a sexual relationship

My husband of five years has, quite out of the blue, asked me to meet him in a bar and pretend I don’t know him. I assume the idea is that he seduces me, which is fine, I suppose. What worries me is that he might be unsatisfied with our sex life, or that he has tried this with someone else.

Wed, 10 Apr, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: We’re getting divorced — but we’re still having sex

My wife and I are in our 40s and we are getting divorced, but we’re still having sex. I find it really confusing. Does it mean we should get back together?

Mon, 25 Mar, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: He wants me to make more noise in bed

My husband wants me to be a bit more vocal during sex. I’ve tried a couple of times but this is simply not my style. While I want my lovely husband to be happy, groaning and moaning during sex just don’t come naturally to me.

Mon, 11 Mar, 2019

Sex File: How do I intensify orgasms after the age of 40?

I’m in my early 40s and I’ve found that my orgasms are less intense than they used to be. My sex life with my husband is alive and well, so I don’t think that’s the issue. Is there anything I can do? Someone told me that using kegel balls will improve things. What do you think?

Thu, 24 Jan, 2019

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My boyfriend thinks he’s amazing in bed

A few months ago I started going out with a great guy. The problem is, he thinks he’s fantastic in bed and is always making self congratulatory comments about it. But the truth is he’s not taking the time to get to know what I want, because he thinks he knows it all already.”

Fri, 11 Jan, 2019

Sex File: I have to tiptoe back to my own bed after sex

My wife of three years has started sleeping in the spare bedroom because she says that she sleeps so well there. I miss her, but I’m getting used to it. What I can’t get used to, however, is having sex and then tiptoeing back to my own room. We’re only 31 and it feels like a strange thing to be doing.

Fri, 16 Nov, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Boyfriend’s cat causes a distraction while having sex

My new boyfriend has a cat. I often look up during sex and see it sitting, staring at me. It makes me instantly lose any focus. He thinks it’s funny and that I’m overreacting. We can’t lock it out of the room because then it scratches and meows and that’s even worse. How can I tune out?

Fri, 09 Nov, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: I'm worried we are too boring in bed

My husband and I only have sex in the missionary position because it seems guaranteed to bring both of us to orgasm. I’m worried sometimes that we’re being lazy and not adventurous enough. Should we be spicing things up?

Fri, 26 Oct, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My girlfriend gets red-faced when sex is mentioned

My girlfriend gets really embarrassed talking about sex. It means that if I ask her to do something a certain way, she gets offended and doesn’t want to have sex at all. What can I do?

Fri, 19 Oct, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My wife wants to use sex toys — is she having an affair?

My wife and I have been married for 12 years. Recently she has started suggesting that we try new things, such as bringing sex toys into the bedroom and trying new positions. I’ve heard this can be a sign that someone is having an affair — should I be worried?

Fri, 05 Oct, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: We no longer kiss each other properly

My fiance and I realise with horror that we no longer kiss beyond a quick smack on the lips. We do have sex. I know we are still in love and we are very much attracted to one another. Is it normal for passionate snogging to disappear? Should I be worried?

Fri, 28 Sep, 2018

Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My husband never makes an effort to turn me on

My husband is continually surprised that I don’t feel like having sex very often, despite the fact that he does nothing to turn me on. If we try to talk about it, we end up in a blame game. How can I make it really clear that he needs to make an effort to have a good sex life?

Fri, 21 Sep, 2018