Sex File: He has put on weight and now I don't fancy him 

"People don't suddenly double in size for no reason — serious weight gain can often be traced to chronic stress or other changes in a person's life"

Weight gain, at its most basic, is the result of eating too much and moving too little, but people don't suddenly double in size for no reason. Pic: iStock

My husband is the best man I've ever met, but I don't fancy him any more. He's always been heavy, but has put on a lot of weight and refuses to do any exercise. It's killing my libido, although he thinks perimenopause is to blame. I used to love our sex life. How do we get it back?

The only people we have the power to change are ourselves, and no matter how much you want your husband to lose weight, unless he makes that decision for himself it isn't going to happen.