Sex File: Will our sex lives become boring when we leave our marriages and get together? 

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I have been having an affair with a man for the past two years, meeting up once a week. We have now decided to leave our respective marriages and get together full-time. However, I am worried that without the excitement of the affair, the sex will become mundane. How can we stop that from happening?

Swapping your marriage for a relationship that has, so far, involved nothing more stressful than steamy sex once a week is not going to be smooth sailing. Within those parameters, I'm sure this relationship is perfect, but take it into the real world and it won't be just your sex life that feels the strain. Affairs can seem to pour champagne sparkle on the domestic drudgery that defines family life, and the magic can sustain you for days. The minute you say goodbye, you start looking forward to your next hello. That sense of anticipation alone ensures you are brimming with lust and overflowing with excitement the next time you meet.