Sex File: Making love feels like a chore to him

"It's a Hollywood trope, where climax happens almost as soon as penetrative sex begins. That kind of unrealistic sexual scripting isn't just bad for women, it's bad for men too."

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My husband and I recently had a very honest conversation in which he revealed that sometimes sex feels like hard work because he's so fixated on my orgasm. I want us both to enjoy it, but I don't want to give up my orgasms. How can we resolve this so that we're both happy?

Although women should be equal participants in the pursuit of their orgasms, and they are definitely the experts when it comes to their own arousal, sexual scripts still portray men as givers of pleasure and women as receivers.