Sex advice with Suzi Godson: My wife wants to use sex toys — is she having an affair?

My wife and I have been married for 12 years. Recently she has started suggesting that we try new things, such as bringing sex toys into the bedroom and trying new positions. I’ve heard this can be a sign that someone is having an affair — should I be worried?

You are right about the fact that people in the early stages of an affair often become more experimental with their primary partner. Low levels of fear and anxiety can heighten arousal, so a secret sexual relationship can increase the appetite for sex.