Sex File: I want to wait to sleep with her but she is getting impatient 

I had a bad break-up before this relationship followed by some meaningless flings

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I have started dating a new woman. We are in our 40s. Before this relationship I had a bad break-up and some unfulfilling flings, so I want to hold back from having sex for a while. However, she seems to be losing patience and says we need to know if we're compatible in the bedroom as well as in the rest of our relationship. Am I wrong to delay sex?

Sexual compatibility is really important, so I can understand why your new partner wants to find out whether that aspect of your relationship is going to work sooner rather than later.