Joanna Fortune: Is my eight-year-old too young to hear about the facts of life? 

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Child psychotherapist

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Joanna Fortune: My teenage sons argue all the time
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Joanna Fortune: My teen daughter wears high heels and makeup. Why does she try so hard? 
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Joanna Fortune: What is the best way to introduce a new partner to my children?
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Joanna Fortune: My teenage son is missing his big brother 
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Joanna Fortune: My child says she is stupid because she finds school difficult  
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Joanna Fortune: My toddler gets upset when I breastfeed the baby
There is no ideal way to navigate this transition — remember that good enough really is good enough

Tue, 10 Feb, 2026

Tired Schoolboy Sitting Alone on a Bench After a Long, Stressful School Day
Joanna Fortune: My young son hates going to school — what if it escalates to refusal?
I’ve tried every trick in the book to encourage him, but nothing seems to be working.

Tue, 03 Feb, 2026

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter feels jealous of her friend's friendship with another girl 
I would urge you not to dismiss or minimise your daughter’s emotional response, writes child psychotherapist Dr Joanna Fortune 

Tue, 27 Jan, 2026

You're going to be the best brother ever
Joanna Fortune: I'm not sure how I'm going to manage it all when my baby arrives
Keep in mind the old saying: ‘It takes a village to raise a child’

Tue, 20 Jan, 2026

Presents near Christmas tree
Joanna Fortune: My teenage daughters barely said thanks for all their Christmas presents 
I was shocked by their lack of gratitude, and said as much to them, but they just shrugged their shoulders and sloped off. Have I spoiled my children for life?

Tue, 13 Jan, 2026

Happy senior couple celebrating Christmas Eve together.
Joanna Fortune: It feels as if my in-laws hijacked Christmas
My husband was of little help and kept fussing about his mum, who expected to be treated like a queen

Tue, 06 Jan, 2026

Loving Little Sisters
Joanna Fortune: Our eldest child won't let her younger sisters out of her sight
Risk-taking activity enables children to experience mastery over a task and encourages them to stretch beyond what they think they can do so that they develop confidence

Tue, 30 Dec, 2025

Mother and daughter are arguing at home
Joanna Fortune: My eldest says we're mean and no fun 
Celebrate Christmas by celebrating the fun in simple, everyday connections

Tue, 23 Dec, 2025

Sad boy with gift box in christmas hat
Joanna Fortune: My nephew doesn't get on with my children — and he's staying for Christmas 
December 25 can be an intense day, and families often feel under pressure. Manage expectations

Tue, 16 Dec, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My two-year-old is missing her granny, who had to undergo surgery 
"My daughter is asking lots of questions about when Granny will be coming back to play with her. She cries when I say Granny is not well right now. How can I explain to her what is going on?"

Tue, 09 Dec, 2025

Angry Teens
Joanna Fortune: My teenage daughters have started to argue
The fact that your girls have recently started arguing may not be related to their differences in skill sets and abilities — it is more likely due to a developmental clash based on their ages and stages of development.

Tue, 02 Dec, 2025

Girl looking in car rear view mirror
Joanna Fortune: My teen wants to learn how to drive but I think it's a bad idea
Knowing when to step back and let our teens be more independent is not always an easy call to make

Tue, 18 Nov, 2025

Christmas Stars, Baubles and Gold Ribbons (XXL)
Joanna Fortune: My mother-in-law insists on celebrating Christmas early
"You need to hold your boundaries and pick your battles. This time of year is exciting for children, as your mother-in-law says, but I also see every day how utterly overstimulating this season can be for them."

Wed, 12 Nov, 2025

Little Mama
Joanna Fortune: How do I help my little girl adjust to a new sibling?
All you can do is stay in the present moment and adapt to however your little one reacts in the moment

Tue, 04 Nov, 2025

Funny happy Dog
Joanna Fortune: My family want to get a puppy but I'm not so sure 
You all need to be in the right place to welcome a new family member and it is OK if you don’t feel that you have the capacity to take on any more right now

Tue, 28 Oct, 2025

Redhead teenage boy playing video games, celebrating win in the game
Joanna Fortune: My quiet teenager swears when gaming with friends — is this normal behaviour?
As best you can, set limits and hold boundaries with him in a collaborative, rather than combative, way

Tue, 21 Oct, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My young daughters argue all the time
"Both are in the middle childhood phase (eight to 12 years), meaning they are competitors within the same developmental stage, which can lead to the type of tension you describe."

Tue, 14 Oct, 2025

Father and daughter fight, generation gap concept
Joanna Fortune: My children have been caught up in family row with grandparents
My mum usually picks up my two children from school once a week, but says she won't do so until I apologise for my behaviour. I'm hurt that she has taken sides and is using childcare as a form of leverage.

Tue, 07 Oct, 2025

Adorable caucasian girl playing with telephone toy sitting on floor at kindergarten
Joanna Fortune: My four-year-old doesn't want to share her toys 
Her only-child status may be more ‘correlation over causation’ when it comes to her struggles. Many solo-children can turn-take and share, and many sibling-children will struggle just as you describe.

Tue, 23 Sep, 2025

Little boy reading a book in green armchair
Joanna Fortune: My child is struggling with reading in class
Reading is nurtured and developed in school from ages five to eight years (and beyond, of course), which means your son is still very much in the 'learning to read' (and specifically learning to read with fluency) phase of his education.

Tue, 16 Sep, 2025

Low angle view of pensive little girl in pajamas looking away at home
Joanna Fortune: What happened to my sweet little girl?
"So much is written and said about the critical early years of our children’s lives, and again when they reach those tricky teenage years, but very little attention is given to the middle stage of childhood, the years between eight and 12."

Tue, 09 Sep, 2025

Football concept
Joanna Fortune: My son has stopped playing football since he was called 'crap' by a friend 
Since then, he has become very withdrawn and finds it hard to go outside even to play with friends, as he doesn’t feel good enough now

Tue, 02 Sep, 2025

Sad little boy in red soccer jersey seated on bench
Joanna Fortune: My son is being left on the bench during matches
You could talk to the coach about your concerns in a calm way, without venting. The coach could clarify the club’s structure, focus, and goals for the team, enabling you to make an informed decision about whether your son should stay.

Tue, 26 Aug, 2025

Young family having fun outdoors
Joanna Fortune: How do we explain to our young children that daddy is out of work?
"The best thing you can do for your children in the meantime is to take care of yourselves and each other. Focus on maintaining open communication and connection, and ensure you have a support system you can activate for yourselves: Friends, family, professional therapy, etc."

Tue, 19 Aug, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: A trial visit to playschool didn't go well, I'm dreading the real thing in September
My three-year-old daughter is very attached to me. She's an only child, and we do almost everything together. She got distressed when I attempted to leave her at playschool in June, so I stayed with her. What would you advise?

Tue, 12 Aug, 2025

Playing on a Video Game
Joanna Fortune: My son lost contact with his pals when he quit the local football team
I've suggested taking up a new sport, but he says he's not interested. What would you suggest?

Tue, 05 Aug, 2025

Loving mother hugging, comforting little daughter, enjoying tender moment
Joanna Fortune: How do I reassure my clingy child that I'm going to come back every time?
She now has a meltdown nearly every time I attempt to leave her behind with her dad or babysitter

Tue, 29 Jul, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My son was spoiled while on holidays with a friend's well-off family 
"You probably know that feeling when you come home from a brilliant holiday and everything at home feels anti-climactic and dull in comparison to the experiences you’ve had on holiday. It’s often referred to as “post-holiday blues”."

Tue, 22 Jul, 2025

Having so much fun under the sun
Joanna Fortune: I'm worried about my parents-in-law going on holiday with us — what should I do?
Arrange a big family day out and perhaps an evening or two when you and your partner can spend quality time together, connecting, sightseeing, or relaxing

Tue, 15 Jul, 2025

Head And Shoulders Portrait Of Serious Teenage Boy
Joanna Fortune: My teenager doesn't want to get a summer job  
"When talking with our teenagers, try to follow the mantra ‘your toes follow your nose’. Ensure that you turn fully to face them when speaking, giving them your full attention for a few moments."

Tue, 01 Jul, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My daughters are constantly arguing with each other 
Around adolescence, children increasingly pull away from their family as their primary hub of emotional and social development, and lean more on peers. This phase does not mean parents should also pull back — we need to be visible and available to our teenage children

Tue, 24 Jun, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: Does my anxious child need professional help? 
Your first step is to take time to reflect on his anxiety. How long has he been experiencing it? Do you know what might have triggered it? It is OK if you do not know the answers, as his behaviour can still be addressed without identifying the root cause

Tue, 17 Jun, 2025

depressed, sad, lonely boy sitting on floor
Joanna Fortune: My husband and I have different parenting styles - how do we work on this?
It should be possible to discuss your different approaches to parenting as a conversation, but if it becomes heated, decide who will speak first (by flipping a coin) and agree that each of you will have five uninterrupted minutes on the matter

Tue, 10 Jun, 2025

Cheerful and excited toddler with her coffer on a airport
Joanna Fortune: How can I control my young children on their first flight? 
I’m already dreading the trip. What would you suggest?

Tue, 03 Jun, 2025

Sad little girl
Joanna Fortune: My grandchild gets upset when it's time to leave the playground
Transitions are not easy for young children to manage, so they often struggle with ending one fun task (playing on the playground) and doing something not so fun (going home for lunch/nap, etc)

Tue, 27 May, 2025

Labrador Puppy
Joanna Fortune: My children refuse to help look after our new puppy 
This new puppy is a new baby of sorts in your family, and like any new baby, it is taking up a lot of your time, attention, and energy

Tue, 20 May, 2025

Sneaky Snacks
Joanna Fortune: I'm worried about bringing my noisy children to wedding 
Weddings can be overwhelming for children. A big part of what makes them and similar events so difficult for them is that the day starts early with much waiting and sitting around

Tue, 13 May, 2025

Jumping in the sea waves on the beach
Joanna Fortune: My child hates going to the beach — I need a solution that works for both of us
Your son might never love being at the beach, but you can slowly, respectfully, and with play start to make it more tolerable

Tue, 06 May, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter is struggling to make friends — what can I do to help? 
Friendship is such a big part of life that when it proves difficult for us, it can overwhelm everything that is going well in our lives

Tue, 29 Apr, 2025

Mother and daughter using a digital tablet together
Joanna Fortune: My daughter is struggling with reading in senior infants
If you push reading too hard and too soon at home, you could inadvertently turn your daughter off reading

Tue, 15 Apr, 2025

Teen student sitting by red lockers, wearing casual clothes.
Joanna Fortune: My teen son finds it difficult to make friends — how do I advise him?
I wonder if he is a bit intolerant of others' shortcomings or just not confident in himself. How can I assist, advise or guide him through his difficulties?

Tue, 08 Apr, 2025

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Joanna Fortune: My quiet teenager keeps washing her hands repeatedly
Child psychotherapist Dr Joanna Fortune

Tue, 01 Apr, 2025

Scouts Unity
Joanna Fortune: My son wants to leave the Scouts, should I insist he stays?
I'd love him to stay as he's made great friends in his group and it has helped build his confidence. Should I insist he keeps going or accept his decision?

Tue, 25 Mar, 2025

girl and her grandmother enjoying sunny morning
Joanna Fortune: My granddaughter doesn't want to share me with her baby sister
My older granddaughter gets upset almost every time I pick up the baby

Tue, 18 Mar, 2025

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