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<p>"It's like he's a different guy; he's short-tempered and doesn't want to do anything anymore. We used to have great craic together, but now he just seems to be in a bad mood all the time."</p>

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Dear Dáithí: My stressed husband is overeating and cranky — can we get back on the right track?

We don't have children; the plan was to get our careers to the right place and then start a family. The way things are going, that's never going to happen. Do you have any advice?

<p>Sex file: "It is such a good idea to make a 'yes/no/maybe' list before trying anything new. Type up a detailed list of new sexual activities that you think may be interesting to try, and next to every item put three boxes with headings: one for 'yes', one for 'no' and one for 'maybe'."</p>

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Sex File: My husband is talking dirty but it's not working... how do I tell him?

<p>The empty nest can also represent an opportunity for some well-earned freedom. It's a chance to do all the things you couldn't do when you felt you had to prioritise your children's needs over your own. Now that your children are gone, you are relishing filling your time with interests and activities. </p>

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Sex File: I feel uninterested in sex — might it drive a wedge between us?

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Richard Hogan: Don't let schadenfreude make you forget there are real people affected

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Dear Dáithí: My perfect girlfriend is horrible to me behind closed doors

Falling for a younger man: Are we finally ditching the age-gap double standard?

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Falling for a younger man: Are we finally ditching the age-gap double standard?

Dear Dáithí: 'My wife is mad because I'm texting a female co-worker - but it's completely innocent'

Dear Dáithí: 'My wife is mad because I'm texting a female co-worker - but it's completely innocent'

'I feel it shouldn't matter what gender my friend is, and my wife is being ridiculous. I think she's taking her feelings of frustration out on me - unfairly.'

Tue, 24 Dec, 2024

With you by my side I could never get lost! - Christmas vacations

Cuffing season: What is cuffing, why we do it and how to do it successfully

We instinctively want the warmth of another person when the nights are long and dark, to stave off the loneliness, says Jenny McEntegart

Tue, 17 Dec, 2024

Man spying his girlfriend mobile phone.

Dear Dáithí: My girlfriend follows muscular lads — I'm not muscular, and am now feeling insecure

The main thing to remember here is that nobody has done anything wrong: all that has happened is that your insecurities in your head have overtaken reality in real life

Mon, 02 Dec, 2024

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Long-term relationships: Navigating the ups and downs of lasting love

Long-term relationships can be wonderful. But being with the same person for decades is not always easy. We get expert advice about the questions you need to ask to keep communications open

Fri, 01 Nov, 2024

Jennifer Horgan: How do you break up with a friend when the fire has died out?

S Jennifer Horgan: How do you break up with a friend when the fire has died out?

You might see one another again and find yourself recalling memories and laughing. But you won’t look at each other and say, what we had is gone; it is no longer

Fri, 21 Jun, 2024

Three-way therapy for throuples? Yes please — and demand in Cork is growing

Three-way therapy for throuples? Yes please — and demand in Cork is growing

'Throuples' seeking professional therapy are changing the face of traditional marriage counselling as demand for three-way therapy sessions rises, says one Cork-based practitioner

Sun, 05 May, 2024

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Sex File: I can't keep up with my new, younger man

Who can tell whether people who have more sex have happier relationships, or people who have happier relationships have more sex?

Mon, 05 Feb, 2024

Dear Dáithí: How do I save myself from a Christmas filled with hints about starting a family?

Dear Dáithí: How do I save myself from a Christmas filled with hints about starting a family?

I know my mother will mention it at every opportunity this Christmas and she will have my aunts on my case too - I can feel her looking at me when there are babies in ads on TV

Mon, 25 Dec, 2023

Dear Dáithí: My brother turned my family against me and cut me out of a will

Dear Dáithí: The thought of Christmas at my in-laws' depresses me

Should I insist we go to my family this Christmas or should we go our separate ways for the day and meet up again after Christmas?

Sat, 23 Dec, 2023

'I don't expect to get my money back': Women left in the dark by Dublin dating agency

S 'I don't expect to get my money back': Women left in the dark by Dublin dating agency

When Fionnuala Bourke signed up with Dublin based dating agency Intro Matchmaking she had high hopes of meeting her life partner

Sat, 21 Oct, 2023

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Terry Prone: Who is protecting the privacy of vulnerable people, or the dead?

The demented and the dead often need privacy protection from those who once vowed loyalty to them in sickness and in health

Mon, 16 Oct, 2023

Sad woman sitting on bed with partner in background

Should you forgive a cheating partner? Two people share their experiences of infidelity

When things go wrong in a relationship, some of us are hard pressed to forgive any kind of betrayal, as the hurt can be multi-layered and complex, writes Geraldine Walsh

Mon, 24 Jul, 2023

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter and her kids are staying for two weeks but I'm worried about chaos

"I had a tense relationship with my daughter during her teenage years and want to ensure the trip is a success"

Wed, 19 Jul, 2023

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Meaningful happiness can take work — but it's possible

While some of us are more predisposed towards happiness than others, happiness does not come as natural to some and so they may attempt to buy into a manufactured happiness

Mon, 12 Jun, 2023

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Talk To Me: Daughter-in-law leaves my son at home with the children

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 14 Apr, 2023

The importance of female friendship and the power of finding your 'tribe'

The importance of female friendship and the power of finding your 'tribe'

Why do we prioritise romatic relationships over platonic ones? Filomena Kaguoko finds out

Fri, 17 Mar, 2023

The New Infidelity: What makes polyamory and open relationships work?

The New Infidelity: What makes polyamory and open relationships work?

Naoise Dolan’s anticipated follow up to Exciting Times is just one of many books and TV shows exploring open relationships. Is polyamory having a moment?

Wed, 15 Mar, 2023

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Tuning in to get off: The rise of audio erotica and five apps worth checking out

Audio erotica apps are booming — Nicole Glennon looks at why they're proving to be a new frontier for women and queer people in embracing sexual pleasure

Tue, 14 Mar, 2023

Humour, honesty and flowers: Couples share the secret to long-lasting love

Humour, honesty and flowers: Couples share the secret to long-lasting love

Three couples celebrating five decades of marriage share some real advice for a long and happy relationship

Tue, 14 Feb, 2023

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Want to find your soulmate? You need to let your freak flag fly

With Valentine's Day fast approaching, Suzanne Harrington tries a flirting workshop with dating coach Jeanne Sullivan Billeci who is encouraging singles to stop playing it safe because they're worried about scaring people away

Sun, 22 Jan, 2023

Friends without benefits: How to 'break up' a toxic friendship as an adult

Friends without benefits: How to 'break up' a toxic friendship as an adult

Fraught friendships are winning awards for Colin Farrell, but is it time to reevaluate your friendships and if they're worth keeping?

Tue, 17 Jan, 2023

Couple not talking after an argument in bed

Sex File: I still fantasise about my ex — how do I finally move on?

One of the main reasons divorcees sabotage the possibility of a new sexual relationship is that they are still smarting from the pain of the end of their marriage

Mon, 12 Dec, 2022

Couple arguing in bed

Sex File: Our bedroom has become a battleground

Time apart will help you to appreciate each other a bit more

Mon, 31 Oct, 2022

Young couple having having romantic times in bedroom

Yes, yes, yes: How to discuss sexual consent in a long-term relationship

Negotiating about sex is not just for new lovers, it's an ongoing conversation that will help to make your relationship more satisfying

Fri, 28 Oct, 2022

senior man in white t-shirt walks on empty wet beach in Brancaster Norfolk England

Talk To Me: I'm worried about my partner who is overweight and drinks

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 07 Oct, 2022

Two Woman Unfriend With Each Other.

S Breaking up with your BFF and the truth about female friendship

The shame and guilt can last a lifetime when a female friendship breaks down. We look at the wall of silence that can surround the end of a relationship with your BFF

Fri, 16 Sep, 2022

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Richard Hogan: Kids want boundaries — give them to them for a happy home

A family without rules, principles and values so quickly descends into an inverted hierarchy

Thu, 15 Sep, 2022

Offended millennial couple avoid talking after fight

S Richard Hogan: My child is in an abusive relationship. What can I do?

It's a predicament that renders parents powerless and hopeless

Wed, 07 Sep, 2022

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Richard Hogan: Coercive control slowly reduces the victim to 'nothing'

In my experience, people who have been coercively controlled can feel as if they are losing their minds

Wed, 31 Aug, 2022

Lifelong love: Expert advice for those in long-term relationships

Lifelong love: Expert advice for those in long-term relationships

A long-term relationship can be difficult to navigate. We talk to experts about how to keep the channels of communication open

Fri, 26 Aug, 2022

Is it really worth it?

Talk To Me: I no longer find my husband attractive

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 19 Aug, 2022

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Suzanne Harrington: My dad just died. He taught me about unconditional love, kindness, and acceptance

A staunch pro-lifer, my dad and I were diametrically opposed on so many things but the love never wavered

Wed, 17 Aug, 2022

Parents and their two children watching TV together at home

Learner Dad: My kids have spoken — you're an old man if you use the word 'cool'

They pity me in the same way I pitied my mother in the 1970s when she would describe something as ‘the bee's knees’.

Tue, 16 Aug, 2022

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New book helps kids (and adults) to appreciate the good in our lives

We Are All Flowersexplores the practice of ‘flower watering’: the art of recognising and appreciating the good in our lives

Tue, 09 Aug, 2022

Girl raising up hands on rock concert

Learner Dad: It’s pounding guitar riffs on our playlists for the foreseeable

I’m just waiting for my daughter to ask me what the line ‘we were barely 17 and we were barely dressed’ means

Tue, 09 Aug, 2022

Going through a rough patch

Talk to me: my partner says he's not sure he wants to be a dad

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 05 Aug, 2022

group of children with school backpacks walking hand in hand. Holidays, back to school, summer camp

Learner Dad: We need a week-long summer camp for Irish kids

It’s like Night of the Living Dead at the breakfast table

Tue, 26 Jul, 2022

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Irish budgeting mum Caz Mooney shares tips for addressing cost of living

Parents’ top child-related money query is how to explain the current crisis to children

Tue, 26 Jul, 2022

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Richard Hogan: How can I cope seeing my ex-husband with someone new?

To complicate things further, the person he is dating is someone we both know and he wants to bring our daughter on holiday with them

Wed, 20 Jul, 2022

Richard Hogan: Inside the mind games of romance scammers like the 'Tinder Swindler'

Richard Hogan: Inside the mind games of romance scammers like the 'Tinder Swindler'

An Garda Síochána released data recently showing over €800,000 was lost to romantic fraudsters in Ireland this year

Wed, 06 Jul, 2022

Learner Dad: There's a poltergeist in our house who steals water bottles

Learner Dad: There's a poltergeist in our house who steals water bottles

I blame the kids for losing their bottles because that’s what parents do

Tue, 05 Jul, 2022

Watering from plastic watering can on the garden.

The importance of getting children engaged in nature and the garden

Allowing them to be hands-on the best way to spark children’s interest in garden skills

Tue, 05 Jul, 2022

Beach bucket and spade

Expert advice for parents of autistic kids adjusting to summer holidays

Help your child to prepare for a new experience by visiting a relevant website or watching videos

Tue, 28 Jun, 2022

Meath v Sligo - GAA Football All-Ireland Senior Championship Round 2A

Learner Dad: We’re a bit of a GAA family now, like those you see in Aldi and SuperValu ads

Something happens between under-7 and under-10, where they move from cart-wheels and chatting to proper Gaelic football

Tue, 28 Jun, 2022