Joanna Fortune: My daughter and her kids are staying for two weeks but I'm worried about chaos

The parent-teenager relationship can be fraught and stressful, but remember, your daughter is now a grown woman with a family of her own.  Meet her as the adult she is and respond with the kindness and support you would have welcomed when you were parenting very young children. 

My daughter is coming home from the States for a two-week holiday with her baby and toddler. We're naturally delighted about the visit and the opportunity to spend time with our grandchildren but I'm worried about the chaos and noise. I had a tense relationship with my daughter during her teenage years and want to ensure the trip is a success.

When you say you are worried about the chaos and the noise, I'm curious about what underpins that worry. Is it that you won’t cope with the typical chaos and noise young children bring or that your home has too many risk factors and isn't child-ready?