Talk To Me: Daughter-in-law leaves my son at home with the children 

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

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My daughter-in-law is an extrovert and loves to party — she goes out most weekends with friends, often leaving my son at home to look after their young children. I can see he’s tired and in need of a break, but he never seems to complain. Is there something tactful I could say to her, or should I just step back and let them sort it out between themselves?

With young children, it is essential for parents to discover how best to replenish and recharge. The path to discovery is rarely straightforward. Men and women face different social expectations and pressures. Despite narratives to the contrary, women are often still expected to carry the burden of childcare and prioritise their families over their social lives. In contrast, men are expected to carry the burden of providing financially for their families and often have more freedom to pursue their interests.