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<p>Richard Hogan: 'We all lose our temper from time to time, but not all of us get properly triggered by everyday life events.'</p>

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Richard Hogan: Learning to cope with being ‘triggered’

Whenever I see a person in a shop overreacting to the shop assistant that isn’t moving quickly enough, or someone raging in traffic, all I see is the hurt little child that felt unseen or abandoned

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Richard Hogan: What are the likely causes of a waning sex drive?

<p>Dear Dáithí: "My beautiful granddaughter seems to want nothing to do with any of us anymore. She doesn't call to me or any of the aunties or even her own mum. I don't want to start an argument with her by telling her how much pain she is causing us all, but I do keep having these imaginary conversations in my head where I lay it all out and get her to see sense."</p>

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Dear Daithí: Our granddaughter’s new life has left us, her family, behind

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Dear Dáithí: Should we tell my dad he’s not driving any more?

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Dear Dáithí: My husband acts like I'm a dangerous driver

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Dear Dáithí: My brother thinks his presence is our real present every Christmas

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Richard Hogan: In my experience, children who get everything come to enjoy nothing

I’m not suggesting we don’t give our kids anything, I’m saying that we should help them to also think about others at this time of immense gift receiving

Wed, 26 Nov, 2025

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Richard Hogan: Parents are often unaware how pornography has changed over the years

People who create this incest-themed or violent content understand very well that the more extreme the material is, the more taboo it is, the more people will consume it. They know that dopamine fires when someone views a hardcore image

Thu, 13 Nov, 2025

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Dear Dáithí: My stressed husband is overeating and cranky — can we get back on the right track?

We don't have children; the plan was to get our careers to the right place and then start a family. The way things are going, that's never going to happen. Do you have any advice?

Mon, 10 Nov, 2025

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Sex File: My husband is talking dirty but it's not working... how do I tell him?

His style — basically just narrating what he's doing as he's doing it — pulls me out of the moment and turns me off

Mon, 11 Aug, 2025

Sex File: I feel uninterested in sex — might it drive a wedge between us?

Sex File: I feel uninterested in sex — might it drive a wedge between us?

I enjoy sex but I'm far more interested in other things, which I know frustrates my husband (although he has never complained)

Mon, 04 Aug, 2025

Richard Hogan: Don't let schadenfreude make you forget there are real people affected

Richard Hogan: Don't let schadenfreude make you forget there are real people affected

Depending on how long an affair has been going on, it can be one of the most psychologically disturbing events a couple can experience. It rocks the very foundation of the relationship, and is the reason why most couples break up

Wed, 23 Jul, 2025

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Dear Dáithí: My perfect girlfriend is horrible to me behind closed doors

We’ve built a life together, but I don’t feel I can relax or be myself around her, like I need to improve on everything. I keep hoping things will get better, but they don’t. How do you know when it’s time to stop trying — and start walking away?

Mon, 16 Jun, 2025

Falling for a younger man: Are we finally ditching the age-gap double standard?

Falling for a younger man: Are we finally ditching the age-gap double standard?

When an older woman-younger man relationship happens in real life, does it still elicit sniggers or disapproval or are we finally ditching the age-gap double standard?

Fri, 31 Jan, 2025

Dear Dáithí: 'My wife is mad because I'm texting a female co-worker - but it's completely innocent'

Dear Dáithí: 'My wife is mad because I'm texting a female co-worker - but it's completely innocent'

'I feel it shouldn't matter what gender my friend is, and my wife is being ridiculous. I think she's taking her feelings of frustration out on me - unfairly.'

Tue, 24 Dec, 2024

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Cuffing season: What is cuffing, why we do it and how to do it successfully

We instinctively want the warmth of another person when the nights are long and dark, to stave off the loneliness, says Jenny McEntegart

Tue, 17 Dec, 2024

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Dear Dáithí: My girlfriend follows muscular lads — I'm not muscular, and am now feeling insecure

The main thing to remember here is that nobody has done anything wrong: all that has happened is that your insecurities in your head have overtaken reality in real life

Mon, 02 Dec, 2024

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Long-term relationships: Navigating the ups and downs of lasting love

Long-term relationships can be wonderful. But being with the same person for decades is not always easy. We get expert advice about the questions you need to ask to keep communications open

Fri, 01 Nov, 2024

Jennifer Horgan: How do you break up with a friend when the fire has died out?

S Jennifer Horgan: How do you break up with a friend when the fire has died out?

You might see one another again and find yourself recalling memories and laughing. But you won’t look at each other and say, what we had is gone; it is no longer

Fri, 21 Jun, 2024

Three-way therapy for throuples? Yes please — and demand in Cork is growing

Three-way therapy for throuples? Yes please — and demand in Cork is growing

'Throuples' seeking professional therapy are changing the face of traditional marriage counselling as demand for three-way therapy sessions rises, says one Cork-based practitioner

Sun, 05 May, 2024

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Sex File: I can't keep up with my new, younger man

Who can tell whether people who have more sex have happier relationships, or people who have happier relationships have more sex?

Mon, 05 Feb, 2024

Dear Dáithí: How do I save myself from a Christmas filled with hints about starting a family?

Dear Dáithí: How do I save myself from a Christmas filled with hints about starting a family?

I know my mother will mention it at every opportunity this Christmas and she will have my aunts on my case too - I can feel her looking at me when there are babies in ads on TV

Mon, 25 Dec, 2023

Dear Dáithí: My brother turned my family against me and cut me out of a will

Dear Dáithí: The thought of Christmas at my in-laws' depresses me

Should I insist we go to my family this Christmas or should we go our separate ways for the day and meet up again after Christmas?

Sat, 23 Dec, 2023

'I don't expect to get my money back': Women left in the dark by Dublin dating agency

S 'I don't expect to get my money back': Women left in the dark by Dublin dating agency

When Fionnuala Bourke signed up with Dublin based dating agency Intro Matchmaking she had high hopes of meeting her life partner

Sat, 21 Oct, 2023

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Terry Prone: Who is protecting the privacy of vulnerable people, or the dead?

The demented and the dead often need privacy protection from those who once vowed loyalty to them in sickness and in health

Mon, 16 Oct, 2023

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Should you forgive a cheating partner? Two people share their experiences of infidelity

When things go wrong in a relationship, some of us are hard pressed to forgive any kind of betrayal, as the hurt can be multi-layered and complex, writes Geraldine Walsh

Mon, 24 Jul, 2023

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Joanna Fortune: My daughter and her kids are staying for two weeks but I'm worried about chaos

"I had a tense relationship with my daughter during her teenage years and want to ensure the trip is a success"

Wed, 19 Jul, 2023

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Meaningful happiness can take work — but it's possible

While some of us are more predisposed towards happiness than others, happiness does not come as natural to some and so they may attempt to buy into a manufactured happiness

Mon, 12 Jun, 2023

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Talk To Me: Daughter-in-law leaves my son at home with the children

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 14 Apr, 2023

The importance of female friendship and the power of finding your 'tribe'

The importance of female friendship and the power of finding your 'tribe'

Why do we prioritise romatic relationships over platonic ones? Filomena Kaguoko finds out

Fri, 17 Mar, 2023

The New Infidelity: What makes polyamory and open relationships work?

The New Infidelity: What makes polyamory and open relationships work?

Naoise Dolan’s anticipated follow up to Exciting Times is just one of many books and TV shows exploring open relationships. Is polyamory having a moment?

Wed, 15 Mar, 2023

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Tuning in to get off: The rise of audio erotica and five apps worth checking out

Audio erotica apps are booming — Nicole Glennon looks at why they're proving to be a new frontier for women and queer people in embracing sexual pleasure

Tue, 14 Mar, 2023

Humour, honesty and flowers: Couples share the secret to long-lasting love

Humour, honesty and flowers: Couples share the secret to long-lasting love

Three couples celebrating five decades of marriage share some real advice for a long and happy relationship

Tue, 14 Feb, 2023

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Want to find your soulmate? You need to let your freak flag fly

With Valentine's Day fast approaching, Suzanne Harrington tries a flirting workshop with dating coach Jeanne Sullivan Billeci who is encouraging singles to stop playing it safe because they're worried about scaring people away

Sun, 22 Jan, 2023

Friends without benefits: How to 'break up' a toxic friendship as an adult

Friends without benefits: How to 'break up' a toxic friendship as an adult

Fraught friendships are winning awards for Colin Farrell, but is it time to reevaluate your friendships and if they're worth keeping?

Tue, 17 Jan, 2023

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Sex File: I still fantasise about my ex — how do I finally move on?

One of the main reasons divorcees sabotage the possibility of a new sexual relationship is that they are still smarting from the pain of the end of their marriage

Mon, 12 Dec, 2022

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Sex File: Our bedroom has become a battleground

Time apart will help you to appreciate each other a bit more

Mon, 31 Oct, 2022

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Yes, yes, yes: How to discuss sexual consent in a long-term relationship

Negotiating about sex is not just for new lovers, it's an ongoing conversation that will help to make your relationship more satisfying

Fri, 28 Oct, 2022

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Talk To Me: I'm worried about my partner who is overweight and drinks

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 07 Oct, 2022

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S Breaking up with your BFF and the truth about female friendship

The shame and guilt can last a lifetime when a female friendship breaks down. We look at the wall of silence that can surround the end of a relationship with your BFF

Fri, 16 Sep, 2022

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Richard Hogan: Kids want boundaries — give them to them for a happy home

A family without rules, principles and values so quickly descends into an inverted hierarchy

Thu, 15 Sep, 2022

Offended millennial couple avoid talking after fight

S Richard Hogan: My child is in an abusive relationship. What can I do?

It's a predicament that renders parents powerless and hopeless

Wed, 07 Sep, 2022

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Richard Hogan: Coercive control slowly reduces the victim to 'nothing'

In my experience, people who have been coercively controlled can feel as if they are losing their minds

Wed, 31 Aug, 2022

Lifelong love: Expert advice for those in long-term relationships

Lifelong love: Expert advice for those in long-term relationships

A long-term relationship can be difficult to navigate. We talk to experts about how to keep the channels of communication open

Fri, 26 Aug, 2022

Is it really worth it?

Talk To Me: I no longer find my husband attractive

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 19 Aug, 2022

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Suzanne Harrington: My dad just died. He taught me about unconditional love, kindness, and acceptance

A staunch pro-lifer, my dad and I were diametrically opposed on so many things but the love never wavered

Wed, 17 Aug, 2022

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Learner Dad: My kids have spoken — you're an old man if you use the word 'cool'

They pity me in the same way I pitied my mother in the 1970s when she would describe something as ‘the bee's knees’.

Tue, 16 Aug, 2022

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New book helps kids (and adults) to appreciate the good in our lives

We Are All Flowersexplores the practice of ‘flower watering’: the art of recognising and appreciating the good in our lives

Tue, 09 Aug, 2022

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Learner Dad: It’s pounding guitar riffs on our playlists for the foreseeable

I’m just waiting for my daughter to ask me what the line ‘we were barely 17 and we were barely dressed’ means

Tue, 09 Aug, 2022

Going through a rough patch

Talk to me: my partner says he's not sure he wants to be a dad

Psychologist Caroline Martin is here to answer your questions on whatever issues you are dealing with in life, from work pressure and stress to loneliness and grief

Fri, 05 Aug, 2022