In any situation in life no matter what it is if you focus on problems, you will find more problems and it’s the same with solutions, so we focus on solutions

"I do think it's time to have a chat as a family, because the family are scattered all over - ye could put a plan together that sometimes they visit you at different times of the year. This will give you time with all the different people, especially the children."

"She has him eating well, working out and off the drink. I think you should ask him how he is feeling these days."

"Your husband is a coach and I’m sure he sees the benefits of sports and I know it’s especially hard to keep young girls involved in sports and I agree with him that it is very important, but at what cost?"

You can’t please everyone so try and please yourself and don’t heed what others think.

I remember when my own dad died and for months after I’d remember times gone by and at first the memories made me sad but if I roll on a few years, these very same memories and thoughts are the ones that make me really happy now

Dear Dáithí, I’m sure you get lots of letters complaining about family at this time of year, but I’m actually at the end of my tether and I don’t know what to do! My brother-in-law is ...

"You both seemed to have dodged this one where up until the arrival of the twins you have spent it apart and now there seems to be a clash of traditions or more simply a difference in the way of doing things. This happens in every family."

"You need to get off your arse, or you’ll give the rest of your weekends sitting on it, and we don’t want that."

Remember parenting has changed but you haven’t, so you too need to adjust here, but all of this is coming from a good place, so keep it there, all will be good.