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Parenting columnist Dr Colman Noctor is a child psychotherapist

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Colman Noctor: How small shifts in schools can do much to support children with dyspraxia

Dyspraxia is a persistent difficulty with motor co-ordination and it interferes with daily life and cannot be explained by another neurological condition

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Colman Noctor: Do secondary school merit points favour girls over boys?

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Colman Noctor: Understanding science starts with moments of wonder, not in our genes

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Colman Noctor: Do 'brain-rot' chants actually aid cognitive development?

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Colman Noctor: Boredom is the playground of developing minds

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Colman Noctor: Time is of the essence in exams for neurodivergent students

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Colman Noctor: Why are voluntary smartphone codes not working in all schools?

"A phone offers a parent peace of mind in an uncertain world. However, that argument needs to be balanced against social pressure, safetyism, and an increasing body of research suggesting that early smartphone ownership poses risks to children’s mental health."

Tue, 30 Sep, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Sport and study are not opposites but partners in academic success

From 8.50am until 4pm, they are expected to sit at desks, listen, absorb, and produce work. By the time they get home, they’ve already spent six or seven hours in a sedentary mode.

Tue, 23 Sep, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Raising children in the age of artificial intelligence

With AI, we are not merely competing with entertainment, we are also competing with another type of AI — artificial intimacy

Tue, 16 Sep, 2025

Colman Noctor: What 'The Traitors' can teach us about honesty in the real world

Colman Noctor: What 'The Traitors' can teach us about honesty in the real world

"As entertainment, it’s gripping. As parenting material, it’s complicated. What does it mean when the same adults who insist that honesty is the best policy also cheer when their favourite contestant lies skilfully? How do we reconcile the values we want to instil in our children with the cultural messages we enjoy for leisure?"

Tue, 09 Sep, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Why many young people do not recognise they have been bullied

Research shows that, while bullying remains a widespread experience for children, many choose not to tell an adult. It’s particularly likely to happen with 13-year-olds, with one in four of them staying silent

Tue, 02 Sep, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Supporting your child during the limbo days between results and CAO offers

For parents, too, these days can be a test of patience and perspective.

Tue, 26 Aug, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Strategies for supporting teens anxious about returning to school

A 2020 study in the Journal of Adolescence found that school-year transitions significantly affect adolescents’ mood and behaviour, especially after long breaks.

Tue, 12 Aug, 2025

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Colman Noctor: New, strict online age verification will keep Ireland’s children safer

Ireland is among the first EU countries to implement legally-binding age verification

Tue, 29 Jul, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Should parents allow kids to take more risks from a young age?

By providing developmentally appropriate opportunities for independence, children can build confidence, resilience, decision-making skills, and a sense of responsibility — critical attributes for successful adulthood

Tue, 15 Jul, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Watching TV with your child can be educational for you both

"Research from the American Academy of Paediatrics (2020) supports joint media engagement with television shows. The researchers found that when parents watch and discuss content with their children, it improves comprehension, critical thinking, and emotional understanding"

Tue, 08 Jul, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Helping young people find meaningful work in the age of AI

"I have observed a lack of direction among young people as they near the end of secondary school. While I recognise that most 18-year- olds are not ‘sure’ about what they want to do with the rest of their lives, there has been a noticeable decline in clarity."

Tue, 01 Jul, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Digital literacy does not happen by accident

"It is shaped by environment, opportunity, and belief. When children believe their education is preparing them for the future, they become more engaged in their learning."

Tue, 17 Jun, 2025

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Colman Noctor: France pulls the plug on underage access to pornography

In a novel move, the law introduces a “double anonymity” mechanism, involving an independent third party overseeing the age verification process.

Tue, 10 Jun, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Using a sports psychology game plan to manage exam stress

Students can benefit from setting SMART goals: Specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound.

Tue, 03 Jun, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Learning from the Dutch approach, where teenagers have high life satisfaction

A UNICEF report has revealed that Irish teenagers are among the least satisfied with life in high-income countries

Tue, 27 May, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Are youth clubs a traditional solution to a modern problem?

Often seen as relics of the past, youth clubs are vital for the social, emotional, and psychological rehabilitation of today's younger generation

Tue, 20 May, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Pressure to be perfect undermines mental health of teen girls

In today’s fast-paced, high-pressure world, raising adolescent girls can feel like walking a tightrope

Tue, 13 May, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Not everyone who struggles to focus has ADHD

Instead of only asking what is wrong with individuals, perhaps we should also ask what is wrong with the world they live in

Tue, 29 Apr, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Parenting is hard, and even harder with mental illness

Contributing to the shame is how society increasingly idealises parenthood, often equating good parenting with unshakable emotional stability

Tue, 22 Apr, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Interplay of politics and personality decides a teen’s popularity status

I remain hopeful that despite living in a world that is becoming more obsessed with image, power, and status, likeability remains the quiet power that never goes out of style

Tue, 15 Apr, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Student burnout is not limited to exam years

Why is this time of year particularly challenging for so many young people?

Tue, 08 Apr, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Love is not enough when raising teenagers

The Netflix series Adolescence reminds us that love must be accompanied by presence, awareness, and action.

Tue, 01 Apr, 2025

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Colman Noctor: We need to bridge the post-school gap for children with additional needs

Study finds we still have some distance to go before we can effectively support young people with additional needs in their post-school pathways

Tue, 25 Mar, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Pandemic leaves its mark on children's development

Lockdowns disrupted many aspects of early childhood

Tue, 18 Mar, 2025

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Colman Noctor: How to offer support to your teenager without piling on the pressure

Communicating with teenagers is challenging, but slight shifts in approach can make a big difference

Tue, 11 Mar, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Lessons must be learned about school avoidance

"Prolonged periods away from structured school environments made reintegrating difficult for some children. Younger students, particularly, missed out on critical early social experiences, making school feel unfamiliar and intimidating."

Tue, 04 Mar, 2025

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Colman Noctor: We need to reboot our approach to internet safety

Many programmes focus on teaching young people how to use technology safely, but they should also demonstrate how technology uses them.

Tue, 18 Feb, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Parenting a highly sensitive child brings its own rewards

Sensitive children often reflect on existential issues beyond their chronological age. They are usually ‘deep thinkers’ prone to overanalysing feelings and experiences. But this is not always a cause for worry. Sensitive children can be incredibly thoughtful and insightful, making them ferociously loyal friends and strong allies to have in your corner

Tue, 11 Feb, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Fact-checking three common myths about teenagers

Stop blaming teens, and fact-check the stereotypes instead

Tue, 04 Feb, 2025

Colman Noctor: I’ve yet to meet a nine-year-old who can safely manage their online life

Colman Noctor: I’ve yet to meet a nine-year-old who can safely manage their online life

We know that those who have grown up in a time when smartphone usage is a generation that sleeps less, socialise less and worries more than any previous generation

Tue, 28 Jan, 2025

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Colman Noctor: How to negotiate house rules with your young adult child

Parents of adult children who are living at home often find themselves in a difficult position

Tue, 21 Jan, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Children need shepherds, not engineers

Rather than micro-managing their lives or spreading ourselves too thin to enable them to participate in every extracurricular activity possible, we need to take a back seat, let them develop at their own pace, and be there for them when they need us

Tue, 14 Jan, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Shielding children from the culture of New Years' Resolutions

"While wanting to improve our lifestyle and choices is inherently good, it should not be a feature of childhood. That time of life should not be burdened with such adult-type pressures."

Tue, 07 Jan, 2025

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Colman Noctor: Contactless relationships do not add up for young people

"We are witnessing the first generation who have not grown up on the street, road, or green, and the social and emotional consequences are becoming apparent."

Tue, 31 Dec, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Smartphones disconnect parents from their children

Smart technology can seriously undermine your relationship with your child

Tue, 24 Dec, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Building bridges with extended family paves the way for confident children

Extended family paves the way for confident children

Tue, 17 Dec, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Gender equality is about equal opportunity for boys and girls

As much as we aspire to be an equal-opportunity society, we still have some way to go

Tue, 10 Dec, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Being kind to others is a win-win

"In an increasingly individualist world that places far more emphasis on the ‘I’ than the ‘we’, it is more challenging for children to be aware of the value of reaching out to others."

Tue, 03 Dec, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Technology is reducing our children’s attention spans

"Technology is designed to tap into our innate desire for instant gratification. Platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube deliver quick bursts of entertainment, creating a reward loop that keeps us returning for more."

Tue, 26 Nov, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Children thrive when they get our undivided attention

In a world where our attention has never been more distracted, the concept of ‘undivided attention’ has never been more critical

Tue, 19 Nov, 2024

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Colm O'Gorman: Say hello to zingy, spicy Suka Pinakarut with this salmon rice bowl

"This dish draws upon many cuisines. Latin American ceviche, Japanese sushi, Korean pickle, all marry together beautifully to create a dish that is fresh and delicious, and very, very healthy to boot"

Fri, 15 Nov, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Algorithms shaping childhood byte-by-byte

"Adults might be dismissive and think of themselves as ‘too old’ to be concerned about such things - but the metaverse is not for 40-somethings like you or me, but for our children."

Tue, 12 Nov, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Everything parents need to know about their child's use of Snapchat

'Snapchat does not always accurately curtail or filter content to the user’s age. Not only are they vulnerable to viewing inappropriate content, they can also create and share such content on Spotlight'

Tue, 05 Nov, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Helping young people deal with online issues like bullying

We must provide the necessary support for young people to navigate the digital world

Tue, 29 Oct, 2024