Colman Noctor: Finding moments of comfort and joy this Christmas after experiencing loss

Grief doesn’t pause for Christmas. If anything, the contrast between the festive atmosphere and a young person’s internal reality can make this time of year especially distressing

The experience of losing a loved one offers an opportunity to teach children that grief and joy can exist together. Picture: iStock.

Tue, 25 Nov, 2025 - 11:52

Colman Noctor

Dr Colman Noctor is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, a senior mental health lecturer at SETU Waterford, and the host of the 'Asking for a Parent' podcast.

Christmas is often presented as a season of joy, connection, and togetherness. However, for many families, especially for children and young people living with grief, the festive spirit can feel painfully out of sync with their inner experience.

Grief doesn’t pause for Christmas. If anything, the contrast between the festive atmosphere and a young person’s internal reality can make this time of year especially distressing.