Sex File: My wife wants more sex than I do

Initiating sex is your wife’s way of bidding for connection, and I very much doubt an orgasm is her sole motivation. Picture: iStock 

My wife and I have always had a pretty good sex life, but recently she has started initiating sex more frequently. I find I am not always in the mood, or that I feel too tired. I have tried explaining I still find her attractive and don’t want her to feel rejected, but I think that is what’s happening. How can we meet in the middle and avoid hurt feelings?

One of the strangest contradictions in human psychology is that we often experience much more intense desire for the things that we cannot have. When things are freely available, we take them for granted or don’t value them as much, but when something is given to us intermittently or in unpredictable measures, we become much more focused on obtaining it.