Sex File: Can a 'quickie' be romantic? 

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Find that a "quickie" helps me to sleep better. My husband, of course, is delighted about my new insomnia cure (we are in our early 50s). The trouble is, great though it is to have sex more often and to get a good night's sleep, it doesn't feel very romantic. Is this a bad precedent to set?

It's not a bad precedent to set at all - it's a great one. Lots of us struggle with sleep, and your approach is clearly effective. We all know that sex helps us to sleep, and there is lots of scientific evidence to back you up. In 2019 Dr Michele Lastella, a sleep researcher at the Appleton Institute for Behavioural Science at CQUniversity Adelaide, carried out the first study to explore the relationship between sexual activities, sleep quality and sleep latency (the amount of time it takes you to go from being fully awake to sleeping) in the general adult population.