Dear Dáithí: Is it terrible if I refuse to go my own hen? 

My friends were horrified when I told them that I didn’t want a hen party in the run up to the wedding...now I think they are planning a surprise party 

The fact that your friends are ‘horrified’ that you’re not having a hen says a lot about them, and they would really need to get over themselves, says Dáithí. 

Dear Dáithí,

I’m getting married in July and we’re firmly in the throes of getting everything organised for the day.