Joanna Fortune: My daughter says I don't love her in the same way as her sister

I appreciate how hurtful it can be to be told that all you have done for your family is still not enough

I wonder if your daughter might be lashing out in frustration rather than telling you that she feels overwhelmed and needs help and support

My eldest daughter, who is a new mum, says I don’t love her like I love my youngest daughter. It’s not true. She has ADHD and is spoilt. It’s very difficult, and she completely disrespects me.

The transition from being the child of a parent to becoming the parent of a child is a significant and often unsettling experience. Moreover, becoming parents can (re)activate issues about how we experienced being parented, sometimes issues we weren’t conscious of beforehand, and bring those issues to the surface.