Sex File: We're too young for a sex drought, should we break up?

We're in our 30s but our (once great) sex life has fallen off a cliff

However nice he is, why would you settle for a sexless relationship in your 30s? Picture: iStock 

My thirtysomething partner of two years and I have a brilliant relationship, but our (once great) sex life has fallen off a cliff. He has a history of short-term relationships and says his interest in sex dwindled in all of them. This is the first man in a long time I've been able to imagine a serious future with, and neither of us want to break up, but should we?

It's good that he is able to talk about it, but it's not enough. He needs to figure out why this keeps happening. It is unusual for a young and healthy male, in a happy and otherwise fulfilling relationship, to lose interest in sex, and if you are certain that he doesn't have any issues with his health or his sexual function, the issue may be psychological. It could be something deep, such as a fear of attachment, and withdrawing from sex is a form of self- protection. Is it possible, consciously or subconsciously, that he is afraid that if he stays with the same woman for too long he will find himself married with kids?