Sex File: Is it too late to spice things up?

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Is it possible to have different sex with the same person? I love my husband of 13 years and our sex life has always been decent but never particularly wild. I feel sad at the thought of never having the kind of sex I've fantasised about, but where would we even start?

You say that your sex life with your husband has always been "decent" - an underwhelming endorsement if ever there was one - but I bet it has changed a huge amount in the 13 years since you first met. Although a degree of habituation is inevitable, if you stay with the same person for long enough life has a tendency to shake things up on a pretty regular basis.