Sex File: I get a bit bored with his foreplay 

"If you and your husband have been hiding sexual insecurities from each other, now is the time to change."

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My 55-year-old husband likes to take his time over foreplay and has always been a bit pleased with himself about this. Sometimes I find it goes on for too long. I don't always want the long build-up, and would like things to move along more swiftly. He thinks this is an unusual complaint for a woman to make and seems disappointed.

It seems to me that there is a simple solution. If you want to speed up sex all you have to do is take matters into your own hands - you can take it in turns to decide the pace. Taking the lead could also have the benefit of increasing the excitement. However, that will fix only part of the problem, that of speed.