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PARENTING - TWEENS

A collection of the latest columns, analysis and opinion relating to the world of Tweens and the unique challenges of these years. Enjoy.

<p>You haven’t lost your “sweet little girl”, she is still there but she is growing up and she is now experiencing rollercoaster emotional, social, and physiological changes.</p>

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Joanna Fortune: What happened to my sweet little girl?

"So much is written and said about the critical early years of our children’s lives, and again when they reach those tricky teenage years, but very little attention is given to the middle stage of childhood, the years between eight and 12."

<p>Particularly for teens, their room is “their little domain”, but if really bothering you, you might negotiate around doing “a big clean” once a month, says psychotherapist and relationship counsellor Bernadette Ryan. Picture: Alamy/PA</p>

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Parenting teenagers: When to choose a conflict — and when to let it go

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Colman Noctor: Should parents allow kids to take more risks from a young age?

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Dr Phil Kieran: Is my son's weight gain due to hormone changes?

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Colman Noctor: Watching TV with your child can be educational for you both

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Joanna Fortune: My daughters are constantly arguing with each other

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Puberty can start as young as eight — here's what you need to know

Parents tend to focus on the teenage years as a time of transition, but it's easy to overlook the profound changes children undergo in middle childhood as they begin puberty, now occurring earlier than in the past

Tue, 24 Jun, 2025

Engaged mom showing cute child girl how to use application

Colman Noctor: Digital safety needs a village, not an app

Parents need a balanced view between good and bad in tech

Tue, 24 Jun, 2025

Saving memories in gadget. Selective focus on display of telephone recording video with first grade girl

Why you should think twice before posting photos and videos of kids on social media

It’s natural to take pictures of highlights in your child’s life, but think twice before sharing them on social media

Sun, 18 May, 2025

Stressed woman

Colman Noctor: Pressure to be perfect undermines mental health of teen girls

In today’s fast-paced, high-pressure world, raising adolescent girls can feel like walking a tightrope

Tue, 13 May, 2025

Scouts Unity

Joanna Fortune: My son wants to leave the Scouts, should I insist he stays?

I'd love him to stay as he's made great friends in his group and it has helped build his confidence. Should I insist he keeps going or accept his decision?

Tue, 25 Mar, 2025

Tots to teens: Personalised and handmade gifts perfect for any occasion

Tots to teens: Personalised and handmade gifts perfect for any occasion

Personalised and handmade gifts — ones you can buy online as well as info on an upcoming workshop where you can make your own

Tue, 25 Mar, 2025

Beautiful young woman and charming little girl are looking at camera and smiling while lying on yoga mat in fitness hall

Colman Noctor: Shielding children from the culture of New Years' Resolutions

"While wanting to improve our lifestyle and choices is inherently good, it should not be a feature of childhood. That time of life should not be burdened with such adult-type pressures."

Tue, 07 Jan, 2025

Friendship Broken.

Joanna Fortune: I'm dreading the bickering between my daughters this Christmas

Almost every weekend, there’s an argument about stolen makeup, missing clothes, or whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher

Tue, 17 Dec, 2024

Young hispanic kid over grunge grey wall looking stressed and nervous with hands on mouth biting nails. Anxiety problem.

Dr Phil Kieran: My 12-year-old keeps biting their nails and then hates how they look... how can I help?

Will they grow out of it or should I find something to help distract them or prevent them biting their nails?

Tue, 27 Aug, 2024

Disappointed at School

Colman Noctor: Students starting secondary school have a special class of needs

"Child development and parenting manuals emphasise the importance of consistency, reliability, and predictability. Yet change is inevitable, including the transition from primary to secondary school."

Tue, 20 Aug, 2024

Baby boy playing with stuufed toy at home.

Julie Jay: It’s a drag watching my baby try to crawl, but he’ll get there eventually

As he shuffles from A to B at a glacial pace, it turns out our one year old isn’t the only one embracing their sloth era

Tue, 13 Aug, 2024

Weight scale

Aoife Hearne: My pre-teen son wants to lose weight

It is normal for children to gain some weight around 13, before they stretch during puberty

Tue, 02 Jul, 2024

GILLIAN HARVEY

Getting ready for Taylor: Shake it off to bond with your children

Parents who might be as keen Taylor Swift fans as their kids are looking forward to the Eras tour concerts

Tue, 25 Jun, 2024

Close Up Of Unhappy Boy Sitting Outdoors In Garden

Joanna Fortune: My son is anxious about starting secondary school

"One of the ways our children learn to strengthen and enhance their capacity to self-regulate their emotions is to experience a full range of emotions, including the more challenging feelings."

Tue, 21 May, 2024

Daughter with grimace unwilling of listening to talking mom

Joanna Fortune: My 11-year-old daughter is out of order

"As our children approach early adolescence, we often see a return of challenging early-years behaviours —tantrums, protest, boundary-pushing, and opposition — but now with the addition of sass in attitude."

Tue, 07 May, 2024

Beautiful little girl, influencer holding mobile phone, taking selfie, recording video, social media

Colman Noctor: Preteens too young to manage smartphone responsibility

School voluntary codes are just the start of the process of managing our children’s relationship with smart devices

Tue, 16 Apr, 2024

Tots to teens: Practical tips and advice for parents to deal with childhood anxiety

Tots to teens: Practical tips and advice for parents to deal with childhood anxiety

A new book outlines the causes and symptoms of childhood anxiety

Tue, 02 Apr, 2024

Happy mother embracing son having breakfast

Dr Phil Kieran: Help me reassure my son about what height he'll be

My 14-year-old son is small for his age and very self-conscious about it. He's also put on weight around his tummy. I've told him he will catch up with the other boys in his class in time, but he is convinced that he'll always be short and overweight. What would you suggest?

Tue, 26 Mar, 2024

It's hard to wake up

Dr Phil Kieran: Is it normal for my son to feel tired all the time?

RSV can cause either a worsening or unmasking of underlying asthma or a condition called post-viral bronchial reactivity (similar to asthma but not long-term)

Tue, 12 Mar, 2024

Adorable girl using smartphone lying on bed at bedroom

Colman Noctor: Eating disorders on the rise among young children

When people feel they have little or no control over their lives, hyper-controlled eating can seem like an appealing antidote for a complex emotional problem

Tue, 27 Feb, 2024

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Julie Jay: Move over Kim, there’s a new boss in town and her name is North

In the latest series of Keeping Up With Kardashians, 10-year-old North West has been running rings around her mother, and we love her all the more for it

Tue, 02 Jan, 2024

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Colman Noctor: Small changes could lead to big results for children

Let's make it our goal in 2024 to make positive progress in  smartphone ownership among primary school children, the ‘win at all costs’ culture of children’s sport and the rise in episodes of bullying by exclusion

Tue, 26 Dec, 2023

Growing Pains podcast: How gaming prompts brain responses that promote reward

Growing Pains podcast: How gaming prompts brain responses that promote reward

Richard Hogan talks about the signs of excessive gaming, setting boundaries, and not depending on games and devices to keep children occupied

Listen | Tue, 17 Oct, 2023

Colman Noctor: Looking beyond our children's woke statements and teaching critical thinking

Colman Noctor: Looking beyond our children's woke statements and teaching critical thinking

Children need to be taught to be critical friends of technology

Tue, 26 Sep, 2023

Rear view of mother and daughter embracing sitting on bed

Help, my daughter says everyone has made friends at secondary school already — except her

Their first term of first year doesn’t have to be as daunting as you think

Fri, 01 Sep, 2023

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