Dear Dáithí: I might have another chance at love after grief — how do I take it?

"I was really happy to see your letter coming in this week, and the reason why is that I think there are lots of people like you who are in this position and afraid to even think about moving on, not to mind actually doing something about it."

"I feel a wave of anxiety and guilt. My wife was the love of my life. How can anyone else measure up?"

Dear Dáithí,

I recently turned 50, and my family all went out of their way to help me celebrate. I am a widower, with no children.