Sex File: He wants me to take the lead in bed

"Even though your husband's difficulties were clearly physiological, when someone you love stops being able to have sex with you, it's hard not to take it personally."

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My husband struggled with arousal for a while, which stopped me initiating sex. 

Medication has fixed his issues, and I think he would like me to take the lead more, but after feeling undesirable for a long time, I am finding this difficult. How do I get over it?