Sex File: I gained weight and feel undesirable but my husband finds me hotter than ever

You have a husband who loves you for who you are, not what size your pants are, so cut yourself some slack and focus on having fun and getting fit. Picture: iStock

I have recently put on quite a bit of weight owing to an injury. I feel so undesirable but my husband thinks otherwise, and seems to find me hotter than ever. How do I lose the pounds without losing what they've done for our sex life?

It sounds as if you have had a tough time recently. You don't say how you injured yourself, but it must have been pretty serious to create the level of immobility that would lead to significant weight gain. Recovery can leave you feeling frustrated and, at times, vulnerable, but your husband has obviously been supportive and I can't help wondering whether it might be the psychological rather than the physical change that he is responding to.