Sex File: I'm worried there will be no love-making during our holiday

'Although not having sex can be a sign that something is seriously wrong in a relationship, it is, possibly more frequently, an indication of sexual apathy.'

Our sex life is fine, if infrequent. I'm fine with this most of the time but I do expect things to pick up a bit when we are on holiday. Last summer we came back from two weeks away without having had any sex. I don't want this to happen again when we're away in a few weeks. How to tackle this?

If you can't get past the awkwardness before you leave, this problem will climb into your suitcase and come with you, so don't wait until you are on the plane to get sex on the holiday itinerary. When you haven't had sex for ages, getting things going again feels really odd. One of the main problems is that couples try not to talk about it, but like the proverbial elephant in the room, they are acutely aware of its absence.