Sex File: Are our sex drives out of sync?

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My husband and I are just back from a trip away during which my desire rocketed, which is unusual, but he struggled to perform, so it was a bit of a letdown. On other occasions, he's been disappointed when I haven't been in the mood to make the most of him being "on form". I think we feel like we're failing each other. It's a sensitive topic. How do we get in sync?

I can understand how a couple of inexperienced teenagers may find it easier to have sex than to talk about it, but you and your husband are in your 60s, and presumably you have been married for decades. Surely you know each other well enough to be able to have a gentle and supportive conversation about your recent sexual difficulties.