Sex File: We want to make love at different times of the day

"If you find it hard to relax because you worry about being late for work, plan in advance - set the alarm to wake you up a little earlier, if that's not too obvious a thing to say."

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My boyfriend prefers to make love in the morning but I can't relax into sex until I've wound down in the evening. But by this point in the day he's usually knackered. We're too young (mid-30s) to only do it at the weekend for the rest of our lives. How do we meet in the middle?

You could actually meet in the middle - of the day. Not every day, obviously, but one of the unspoken benefits of the increase in flexible working is the opportunity it creates for lunchtime trysts.