Joanna Fortune: Our teenage son has completely disengaged from us 

"They are neurologically wired for risk-taking, impulsive, and reward-seeking behaviours. Most want to experiment with new tastes in music, fashion, and friends, which impacts attitude and behaviour."

"Teenagers experience a surge in development starting in early adolescence (13-15 years), peaking in mid-adolescence (15-17 years), and generally starting to settle in late adolescence (17-19 years)."

I’m anxious about my teen son’s behaviour. He has completely disengaged from us in every way. He’s become very erratic and angry. We try our best to work with him flexibly around his friends and social life and limit the confrontations he seems to be endlessly seeking. We’ve suggested counselling but he refuses to go. Please help.

I suggest you start by reflecting deeply on what was happening before this change in his behaviour and what has been happening since. Could there be a trigger for this change?