Sex File: My new man wants a performance review almost immediately after making love

The explanations that come to mind are many and varied. Insecurity or performance anxiety are the most obvious, but his need for validation could also be an indication of competitiveness or egotism

Research confirms high levels of sexual communication positively correlates to sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction. Picture: iStock 

My new partner insists on feedback, almost as soon as we've finished having sex — what I liked, what he did, what we both want more or less of. I'm a fan of open communication but this is starting to feel more like a performance review. We're in our late 30s and it's been a while since I slept with anyone new. Is this behaviour now normal?

Lots of research confirms high levels of sexual communication positively correlates to sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction. Equally, couples who report sexual problems also report a lack of sexual communication.