Sex File: We’re too young for our sex life to be over

"My girlfriend says that whenever her friends talk about sex these days, it’s largely about the fact they’re not having it. Surely we’re all too young for this?" Picture: iStock 

My girlfriend and I are in our early 30s and our sex life has dwindled massively. We’ve only been together for two years, living together for one. We don’t have children, but sex seems either to come right at the bottom of our list of priorities, one of us gets distracted, or we’re simply too tired. My girlfriend says that whenever her friends talk about sex these days, it’s largely about the fact they’re not having it. Surely we’re all too young for this?

Welcome to the 21st century, where scrolling for memes has become a more prioritised pastime than having sex. Results from a 2019 National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles in Britain, found that one in three men and women aged 16-59 hadn’t had sex at all in the previous month, compared with one in four when the same study was carried out ten years ago. The study also showed that the average number of times that 35 to 44-year-olds reported having sex in the previous month had dropped from four to two among women and from four to three among men.