Sex File: I want to be told how good I am in bed

 I need a lot of positive reinforcement and praise in bed.

I need a lot of positive reinforcement and praise in bed. I want my boyfriend to tell me how sexy I am and how much he enjoys what we're doing. I've told him how much it gets me going, and he tries, but he says it feels forced. How can I get what I need in a way he finds comfortable?

Being asked to deliver any kind of sexual narrative when it does not come naturally can feel awkward. And it is not always conducive to great sex. Anything that makes a person feel self-conscious detracts from the experience because the brain can't simultaneously process feelings of self-awareness and sensations of sexual pleasure. I suspect your partner doesn't really understand why you need a stream of compliments to achieve climax. He may think you are high maintenance when the reality is that the connection between wanting and being wanted may be hardwired.