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Irish Examiner Agony Uncle Dáithí Ó Sé answers your dilemmas - big or small

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Dear Dáithí: I'm uncomfortable with the messages from my friend's husband

I don’t want my friendship with his wife to change and I’m resentful that his carry on is going to necessitate me having to distance myself from her.

Sun, 07 Jun, 2026

Girls having fun at a bachelorette party

Dear Dáithí: Is it terrible if I refuse to go my own hen?

My friends were horrified when I told them that I didn’t want a hen party in the run up to the wedding...now I think they are planning a surprise party

Sun, 31 May, 2026

Bride, groom and wedding guests making a toast

Dear Dáithí: What’s the earliest acceptable time to leave a friend's wedding?

My friends were shocked and said it would be rude when I made moves to leave a reception at 10pm and persuaded me to stay on and I was wrecked the following day

Sun, 24 May, 2026

Envelope of banknotes

Dear Dáithí: Work whip-arounds are endless. Am I being stingy if I don’t contribute?

Not a month goes by where I'm not contributing to cards, sometimes for people I really don't even know

Mon, 18 May, 2026

Silhouette of depressed, sad and lonely man in the apartment.

Dear Dáithí: 'I feel so lonely... how do I make friends as a 38-year-old man?'

It seems everyone is really busy and tied up with juggling work and family commitments. I don't blame anyone for that. But I feel like I've been left behind

Mon, 11 May, 2026

Sad and thoughtful man after arguing with girlfriend

Dear Dáithí: I'm uneasy about my wife's friendship with her fitness instructor

I don’t know if I’m being insecure or if something is genuinely off, but I feel increasingly uneasy

Mon, 04 May, 2026

close-up photo of a female hands holding a pink invitation envelope with a wax seal, a gift certificate, a card, a wedding invit

Dear Dáithí: How do I tell my boyfriend about my friend's 'no ring, no bring' rule?

My boyfriend has already booked time off for the wedding as I fully expected we'd both be going — do I call my friend and ask if it's an oversight and can she add him to the list? Or do I tell my boyfriend he hasn't been invited?

Mon, 27 Apr, 2026

House model and key in house door. Real estate agent offer house, property insurance and security, affordable housing concepts

Dear Dáithí: My parents are treating my house like a second home

My parents have got into a bit of routine of coming to stay at weekends, and while I enjoy their company, I really want some space of my own

Mon, 20 Apr, 2026

Rear view of friends walking at the airport

Dear Dáithí: Will I regret missing my daughter's first birthday to go on a girls' trip?

I've paid my deposit for the break, but I'm worried what people will think if I do go, or if I will regret being away from her on the day?

Mon, 13 Apr, 2026

Man lying on sofa with feet up on armrest

Dear Dáithí: 'My daughter's boyfriend treats our couch like his spare bed'

'Lately, he seems to be staying more frequently, and it feels like our living room is his spare bedroom', writes an anguished parent to agony uncle Dáithí Ó Sé

Sun, 05 Apr, 2026