Julie Jay: Friendships come second when we become mammies 

"Motherhood tests friendships because nothing changes a person like bringing a child into the world. Kids are the be-all and end-all, and they come before anyone or anything else."

About seven years ago, I was invited onto a radio panel to talk about women’s issues, and a panellist made a comment that stuck with me. 

‘When you have a baby, you really find out who your friends are,’ she said. ‘It’s amazing how many people I would have considered a good friend fell away when I had my first.’