Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Faking it because sometimes sleep is more important

Is it really that bad to fake an orgasm? I’ve been married for 10 years, we have two children and I enjoy sex, but sometimes I fake an orgasm so the pressure is off. It doesn’t happen all the time and I don’t feel as if I’m missing out because I have orgasms on my own. I feel a bit guilty though. Is this a problem?

Habitual faking is clearly counter-productive but if you are not doing it all the time and you are capable of achieving orgasm, what your husband doesn’t know doesn’t hurt him. When it comes to sex, honesty is the best policy, but there are times in every woman’s life when getting to sleep feels more important than getting to the point of no return.