Sex advice with Suzi Godson: I don’t want to wear sexy lingerie for my husband

Dressing up makes your husband’s gift a fun costume, rather than as a reflection of who you are, says Suzi Godson.

Q. A few months ago, after eight years of marriage, my husband and I talked about making our sex life more interesting. Shortly afterwards, he bought me some sexy lingerie from an expensive boutique. But I don’t want to wear it.

It makes me feel as if I’d be putting on a performance, which makes me feel very uncomfortable.