Sex has been difficult since wife had affair

You must both be completely honest about what you do and don’t enjoy in bed, says Suzi Godson.

Q. Since my wife had an affair, we have found sex difficult. When I found out about her fling, she explained that it was because our sex life had become boring.

She wants me to be more assertive and to “spice things up”, but it feels unnatural to have to start behaving differently in bed. Can we get through this?