Sex clinic: Will our sex life ever be the same after children?

QUESTION: My wife and I have been married since our early 20s. I’ve always fancied her, but since the birth of our child our sex life has become less exciting. 

I knew this might happen, but I’m worried it’s permanent. I want to see her sexually again, rather than just as the mother of my child. Is it possible to reignite early lust?

ANSWER: You need to be patient. Having a child is a major life transition and you must adjust to the multiple changes. The physical changes of pregnancy and birth are visible, and hard to ignore, but there is also a psychological impact.