Sex File: Why does my new partner take so long?

Although your partner doesn't seem to be bothered about it, delayed ejaculation is clearly having a negative effect on your experience, so it needs to be addressed before it takes the joy out of sex altogether

Spending much more time on foreplay with lots of manual and oral stimulation will mean that your partner is closer to the point of no return when you begin having sex. Picture: iStock 

I'm in my 50s and still have a high libido, but my current (younger) partner takes far too long to finish — 45 minutes or more — which is frankly starting to feel like an endurance test. He's not on any medication and can't see the problem. 

Many young men learn everything they know about sex from watching porn, which encourages the idea that being able to delay orgasm ad infinitum is highly desirable. In reality, the reason male porn stars can keep thrusting for hours is thanks to clever editing and industrial quantities of Viagra.