Sex File: My wife's racy past is haunting me

Her friend let slip about a colourful period in their early 20s and I can't get past it

The bottom line is you've been married for 15 years and you trust your wife, so why would you allow a supposed friend relaying 20-year-old gossip about events she did not witness in person to influence that? Picture: iStock 

A friend of my wife recently let slip about a colourful period in their early 20s. My wife has always been open with me and I knew her sexual history was more extensive than mine, but I hadn't realised it was so raunchy. We're in our mid-40s, have been married for 15 years and I trust her, but I can't get past it. Any advice?

Raunchy is a bit of a stretch. In your longer letter, you mention she had one-night stands and a fling with someone in the office. In all honesty, that sounds like fairly bog-standard sexual experimentation for a woman in her 20s.