Sex File: Should I explore my lesbian fantasies?  

I can't stop fantasising about women when I have sex with my husband and keep wondering if I missed out on exploring my sexuality

Research found 59% of heterosexual women had fantasised about having sex with another woman, and 26% of heterosexual men had fantasised about sex with another man. Picture: iStock 

I'm a mum of two and still attracted to my husband but I can't stop fantasising about women when we have sex. I never experimented when I was younger and keep wondering if I missed out on exploring my sexuality. Are these fantasies a sign I should act?

The fact you have been fantasising about women is not particularly unusual. In 2018, Dr Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, asked more than 4,000 men and women about their sexual fantasies. He found 59% of heterosexual women had fantasised about having sex with another woman, and 26% of heterosexual men had fantasised about sex with another man.