Sex File: Why does my husband hate sober sex? 

'The fact that your husband hates it so much already suggests that he is more dependent on alcohol than you are and/or that he uses it as a way to feel less sexually inhibited.' Picture: iStock 

My husband and I are doing Dry January and potentially the months beyond. I always thought a drink got me more in the mood but I'm surprising myself by how much I'm enjoying being properly 'present'. However, he hates it, even though he's lasting longer. How can I encourage him?

Having a few drinks has been integral to human celebration since our knuckle-walking ancestors discovered that rotting fruits ferment into ethanol. Even so, it is virtually impossible for many of us to crawl away from the festive excess without concluding that Dry January is a must.