Sex File: He loves 'make-up' sex but I don't 

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My partner and I have a great sex life and are still very attracted to each other. After an argument, though, I am rarely in the mood, sometimes for days. I've never used sex to get my way - for me, intimacy is an expression of our emotional closeness, whereas he sees sex as a way to restore it. What are your thoughts?

You both have a point. Sexual arousal doesn't happen in a vacuum. It involves cognitive, physiological, and neurological processes, all of which include and are influenced by emotion.