Sex File: He won't indulge my hotel fantasy 

"In the first six months or so everything is evaluated through rose-tinted glasses. Neither of you can do any wrong until, bang, you hit a bump in the road and the glasses come off."

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I suggested a sex game to my (newish) boyfriend that I can't believe he has turned down. My idea was to meet him in a hotel bar and pretend we didn't know one other and then have a wild "one-night stand". He said it wasn't for him and we haven't discussed it since. I'm confused. What's not to like?

There could be a million legitimate reasons for your boyfriend's negative reaction, but if you don't talk to him about it, expect to remain confused. Maybe he had a bad experience with role play in the past and it has put him off for life, or he is very insecure. Maybe he finds "acting" embarrassing and the thought of doing it, badly, in a public place where other people might see him would feel humiliating, not sexy.