Sex File: Is it normal to be too busy for sex? 

"Unless a couple is able to address these issues when they decide to have children, what often happens is that women take overall responsibility for the children, men get marginalised, and the unspoken resentment that this causes can leach into every aspect of a couple's relationship."

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I often tell my husband that I'm too busy for sex. We've got two young children and my work is very time-consuming. I'm pretty sure I still fancy him, but our sex life takes a back seat. Is it bad that it's far down our list of priorities or is this normal?

It is not unusual for a mother of two small kids to feel this way. Although the dial has shifted a bit in recent years, countless studies show that mothers, whether they work or not, do most of the childcare and domestic drudgery. Of course, it is not the case in all relationships, but if your constant busyness is partly related to the fact that you do the bulk of the labour, it's no surprise that you have so little desire to have sex.