Dear Dáithí: How do I tell my boyfriend about my friend's 'no ring, no bring' rule?

My boyfriend has already booked time off for the wedding as I fully expected we'd both be going — do I call my friend and ask if it's an oversight and can she add him to the list? Or do I tell my boyfriend he hasn't been invited?

The first of the wedding invites arrived this week, and I was somewhat taken aback when I realised that my friend had invited me to the wedding, but not my boyfriend.

Dear Dáithí,

A good few of my friends are planning to tie the knot this year, and so over the last few months my boyfriend and I have been putting aside a few euro to help with the costs.