Dear Dáithí: Do I have to give up my Christmas traditions for my husband and his family?

"You both seemed to have dodged this one where up until the arrival of the twins you have spent it apart and now there seems to be a clash of traditions or more simply a difference in the way of doing things. This happens in every family."

Dáithí Ó Sé. Pic: Domnick Walsh

Dear Dáithí, 

How do people merge totally different Christmas traditions and routines without one person just giving up something that is so special to them?