Dear Dáithí: My husband has been secretly paying his brother's bills and loan — I am furious

There's plenty I could be doing with extra money. How can I work it out, so we get the money back without a falling out?

Dáithí Ó Sé: "You are 100% right to ask about this and you should have been in the know from the start as your husband should have discussed this with you... because not alone is this his money it's also yours"

Dear Daithi, 

I just found out my husband has been paying his brother's bills for the last year. His brother and I have never really gotten on, he was always a smart Alec, from the day I met him — he'd say things that he'd think were funny, but I'd always feel I was the butt of his joke.