Sex File: Why does he reject me in bed?

"...[chemotherapy] can cause nerve damage which can interfere with sexual function. Although sexual problems are usually at their worst during and right after treatment, they can also begin after it ends."

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We've been happily married for 40 years, but the past few have been fraught with illness and bereavement, and our sex life has not resumed since my husband's surgery and chemotherapy last year. He kept saying he wasn't ready, but when pressed admitted he no longer finds me attractive. I'm devastated. Am I wrong in thinking this is more about him than me?

I have not had cancer. However, people that I love have been there, got the T-shirt, and lived to tell me quite how bad it was. Chemo is horrible, but it saves lives and so yes, this is much, much more about your husband than it is about you.