Joanna Fortune: My teen son finds it difficult to make friends — how do I advise him?

Joanna Fortune: "If you think that your teen may be intolerant of others' shortcomings, there are ways you can strengthen and enhance his tolerance levels. Be sure to talk openly about your friendships and how typical it is to like someone and spend time with them while not always liking everything about them."

My teenage son is struggling to make close friends in secondary school.  He seems to be on his own most lunchtimes but has chats alongside classmates when in class. I wonder if he is a bit intolerant of others' shortcomings or just not confident in himself. How can I assist, advise or guide him through his difficulties?

Finding the right friend fit during adolescence is challenging and a crucial developmental stage. We know our teenagers tend to prioritise their peer group over family time and to look towards their friends for validation and approval.